Q:My 25yr old daughter hangs up the phone on me when we are talking about situations that I don’t have control over when I ask what she wants me to do about it. I’m not one to ignore this kind of thing since I feel disrespected and don’t deserve to be treated like “whatever”. What should I do?
A:Thanks so much for calling to talk about this. I can imagine your frustration here. If your daughter is really looking for you to fix a situation that is out of your control, maybe she would be open to you talking her through some suggestions on how she can handle it. That way you’re giving your input, which she clearly wants, but you’re allowing her to learn how to handle difficult situations that she’d rather stay away from. You also may want to remind her again that hanging up on you isn’t acceptable, and you’d like to have a mature conversation with her. Clearly, this is very important to her, and you want to be there to help her, but you can’t help her when she isn’t ready to have the back and forth conversation.
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